Monitoring over time and per Pod yes, there's suggestions at https://kubernetes.io/docs/tasks/debug-application-cluster/resource-usage-monitoring/ One of the more popular is the Prometheus-Grafana combination - https://grafana.com/dashboards/315

As for automatic suggestion of the request and limits, I don't think there is anything. Keep in mind Kubernetes already tries to balance giving each Pod what it needs without it taking too much. The limits and requests that you set are to help it do this more safely. There are limitations on automatically inference as an under-resourced Pod can still work but respond a bit slower - it is up to you to decide what level of slowness you would tolerate. It is also up to you to decide what level of resource consumption could be acceptable in peak load, as opposed to excessive consumption that might indicate a bug in your app or even an attack. There's a further limitation as the metric units are themselves an attempt to approximate resource power that can actually vary with types of hardware (memory and CPUs can differ in mode of operation as well as quantity) and so can vary across clusters or even nodes on a cluster if the hardware isn't all equal.

What you are doing with top seems to me a good way to get started. You'll want to monitor resource usage for the cluster anyway so keeping track of this and adjusting limits as you go is a good idea. If you can run the same app outside of kubernetes and read around to see what other apps using the same language do then that can help to indicate if there's anything you can do to improve utilisation (memory consumption on the JVM in containers for example famously requires some tweaking to get right).